Monday, March 28, 2011

Undeserving or Unfortunate??

Undeserving or Unfortunate

“We come to this world alone and the same way shall we leave” – A true fact!

Life’s a war. At every step, there is one or the other challenge to look out for, to confront and to CONQUER! As it is well known, a war cannot be won without soldiers, without the generals, without the ammunition. God has bestowed us with, not the same, but some things which are an apt replacement.

Our family, our relatives and our friends. Friends, strikingly, assume the role of soldiers. The one’s who always shield you, a step ahead of you and ready to die for you! Well well, the last thing doesn’t apply to ALL the friends that you have. Human mind has smartly, wisely and significantly categorized people in groups of best, good and ok-ok friends. Knowingly or unknowingly but innocently for sure, we give the authority to out BFFs to play a very important role in our lives. Sharing and caring, loving and hating, fighting and consoling, knowing every flaw and negative point of the other person but still loving them from the bottom of your heart – A small attempt to summarize the lovely relationship!

We do things from the minutest to the biggest of them all for them, with no expectation of anything in return but just love! The promise to stick together forever come what may, support each other through thick & thin and help multiply the happiness and divide the sorrows are so called DUTIES to be performed. Tho’ every one will accept that such things are not done consciously but it just happens out of the utmost care for then other person.

But then comes the bad part, sadly! Life changes at every second and so does the way to live it. And we are so vulnerable to the changes that we change our OWN self at every obstacle life throws at us! No doubt, adapting nature is needed to its utmost importance but losing one’s originality is no less than disrespecting yourself. Priorities change and so does behavior towards those who were once the closest! No one is to be blamed, if observed as a neutral person, as both are correct on their own grounds! Then who is to be blamed for it? Do years of love, care & friendship come to an end just like that? Agreed life has a thrown a bouncer at us which doesn’t mean that we let it hit us. Playing a hook shot helps avoid the situation with grace. Solving out the differences, helping each other adapt the CHANGE, and communicating frequently to clear out the misunderstandings help to a great extent to be BFF! J It’s not easy for either one to stay away from each other cause no one in the world is so strong to ignore and hate the person once he/she loved and cared for. Fights and misunderstanding will happen, they ought to, but it only helps in getting the relationship stronger. Every one deserves a chance to explain as it helps us understand each other better.

But still, when things don’t work out at all despite you trying more than you could ever, the following lines keep circling in my mind!

There’s just one question which whirls
And in my mind, it swirls
“Why am I in this state?
Was I Undeserving or as always, Unfortunate!” 

DEDICATED to MY BEST FRIENDS and MY LOVED ONES, who form an integral part of my life. Dunno what I am to you But you people mean the WORLD to me! Come what may, Abhijan Ghosh will always be there for YOU! 

Signing off… Love always …. <3 <3

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Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Generation Gap, how true is it to the real sense?

“You won’t understand it, Mom”, “You never understand my feelings, Dad” ---- These two sentences are the ones, any boy or girl of our generation will closely, easily and deeply relate to themselves.

What is this so-called Generation Gap? As defined by the youngsters of today, it’s the “forward” thinking which we presume to have in ourselves and the thinking which our parents, our preceding generation, will never understand. But is the thinking correct? Is the feeling what we have in our hearts and what we expect our parents to understand, justified?

Today’s generation expects freedom and independence in every aspect of life. Late night parties, hanging out with friends and the wanting to do everything on our own are some of the many things we ask for! Clash of egos, way-different thinking and inability to understand each other leads to widening of this GAP!

Agreed, being independent is good, it expands our horizon, gets us more creative and helps us build a self to face this tough world. But what’s needed the most is experience, which we fail to realize is possessed by our parents. They have spent twice the time we have in this world, seen it four times more and understood it 10 times more. They might not understand the present day walks of life, the trends and the styles. But, it’ll never happen that they won’t take the step first, to understand it! Human being, after all they are, they need time to understand it. This statement leads me to a beautiful story I read somewhere. Here it goes. :

“A boy was playing games on the computer. His dad saw him play & went to sit besides him. “What did you just do?” asked his dad. Startled for a second, the boy said, “nothing dad, just planted the bomb at the bomb-site.” “Oh ok!” Time passed and the dad intently kept watching his son play. He kept inquiring his son about what he was playing at regular intervals. The boy got irritated and after some time, he shouted “Will you freaking leave me alone and let me play in peace, why the hell are you disturbing me.” The dad smiled and said “Relax son, I never wanted to irritate you. Just wanted to tell you of an incident which happened when you were a year old.” The boy was shocked to see the calm face of his father. “I took you out for a small evening stroll at the park and you saw a cow on the way. You asked me what it was. I told that it’s a COW. You saw the same animal 15 times and asked me the same question a 100 times. And with your ever increasing number of questions, I answered with a broader smile and more love!” The boy was speechless. His dad hugged him and the boy cried incessantly!”

This story goes on to show the difference in patience levels between the two generations. Why can’t we jus take a deep breath, take a second and explain our way of life to them! They are our parents, Mom & Dad. We spent freaking 9 months in our mom’s womb, clasped dad’s finger to take our first step, had our first tear rolled out in front of them, fought with them, loved them. They understand us more than anyone else in this world! Any thing we needed at any part of our childhood, it was them who we always approached. And now, why do we think that they won’t understand us. They understood what we wanted even before we told anything, knew the reason of our tears and our smile just by looking us.

 Maturity, sometimes, becomes too mature a word for us to understand. We think we know and understand everything and that’s when we overlook what our parents tell us. The sense of victory, if achieved once, gets so much in our mind, that we forget where the ground is. Understanding on both sides is necessary, Taali ek haath se nai bajti! We, as the youth need to understand that “Baap humesha baap hi rahega!” They will forever strive to teach us with their learning and experience and we need to respect that. Accepting what they say & implementing it according to the situation we face will always narrow the generation gap. On the other hand, a sense of adaptability and adjustment is needed from the side of our parents. The world is changing every second but no doubt, the way to LIVE this LIFE will always be the same! To which everyone will agree that our parents can give the best path to tread on!

The need of the hour is not to keep cursing the GENERATION GAP factor and use it as a tool to find our own ways. But, we have look towards means to bridge this GAP. Initiatives from both sides is necessary to construct this bridge which, I swear, will lead to a never-before and the most beautiful relationship between the two generations. This article may seem, somehow, to be hitting on the youngsters. This is not at all the case. J I am a youngster myself, but somehow this Generation Gap thing never went down my throat. As in, there are people who solve it out too, with grace! And it can’t get lovelier than that. Just had these thoughts in my mind, so poured them out in words!!

Till next time, with another deep introspection on another aspect of life. Signing off…

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Friday, March 4, 2011

My first.. POEM... errr.. SONG..... Ummm na na.... PROSE .... Arrrghhh .. Dunnooo!! .. Somethin It is!! !!

Just a Start

Did you ever think,
Wish I could stop time,
Just hold the hands of the clock,
Stop the tick tock.
The wish to freeze the situation,
When things get maddening,
When you  feel things are horribly wrong,
The wish to go in a rewind,
Rectify things you have done wrong.
Why this feeling
Coz your conscience keeps hitting like a gong,
As you went against everyone's liking.
Was I right anytime or am I always at fault,
You take a pause, give a thought,
Who am I living for,
For myself or for this world I fought,
Does making the world happy make me happy,
Or is it all just crappy?
What is the thing which matters the most,
Is it the work you do or just the post?
But then I realize, Its the "world" I'm living for,
Family, friends & my loved ones is what I'm alive for.

Life has loads of meanings
& as you go deeper
and play every innings
Every definition becomes clearer.
Its crying and sleeping when 2 years old,
Cartoons and video games when u enter 10,
School masti and friends as 16 is over,
New love and infatuation as 18 starts,
Career and seriousness as 22 ends.
But is this were it all ends?
Is this what we call the life trend?
At every stage, it teaches us a hell lot,
We learn somewhat,
But with every passing day,
Life tests us with all the more shades of gray,
Passing the tests isn't important,
Provided you learn what life wants to teach in each test!
Agreed, things might get tough,
And you wont even have the time to cough,
Being strong might seem to be good just in "words",
This is the time when your character is tested!

As I give my first try to write something "Good",
It has got me hungry for Food ;) ,
I will be back soon,
Surely before mankind decides to go & stay at the Moon,
It wont be long,
I will be back with another song!

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